Follow your heart

follow your heart

A cute little reminder when I was still looking for the cutest flower for my heart, but now that I found it... I still dream of using the same wise words for something even bigger.

Let's see,

Kenya is a nice nation governed by big brains. Each and every Kenyan is entitled to have a say in Kenya. At least people have a chance to loud their opinions clearly and without prejudice.

However, it comes a time when big brains seem to think and feel more powerful than the rest of the people. This creates divisions in opinions, ways of life and even in walks of life. This is where one should use their hearts to know what to follow.

Your Head can be deceived.

Yeah, you have heard about this in the anime, frozen, huh! Well, humans are easily lead into a snare by the words of a sly tongue. Brains, however, big and bright they are, are very unstable. A good reason why love and lust seem to walk hand in hand, but love will always emerge the winner because it does not originate from the brains but from the heart.

Think about hatred, why is it so hard to control? This only confirms that something acquired and registered in mind can be very dangerous to someone who does not understand between thinking about something and feeling about something.

In Kenya today, we think and act easily against something or someone compared to feeling about the same. Feelings are the secret forces that grand one that desire for a second opinion or option. And yes! Those who follow their hearts are wiser than those who act without a second thought.

Tolerance is a gem that Kenyans should acquire before anything else. We have big brains that have gone astray just because they are unwilling to tolerate having a competitor. 

Kenyan politics gives us a hint why this simple virtue is much needed in this country. Rage, anger, fear, terror and every kind of negative thoughts and ideas are sing songs of the time. Insults, calling names and other evil drive people like dhows in windy season. 

People love it when someone is insulted by their favorite politicians. Hatred is installed that way into the minds of willing individuals. Heads can be deceived, remember! But with tolerance, people are free.

Why follow your heart,

The human heart is a symbol of love. Hatred cannot exist where love domain. It is easy to point out evil when your heart is free and clean. Make a good choice and let peace be upon you.

Lovely Day!

Do Children Grow Faster, Learn Too Much and Act More Adult Than Their Age? What Parents Ought To Know

Children Learn Too Much and Act More Adult Than Their Age  

'Listen to them talking and you will notice how much they know what they are not supposed to know.'

Nowadays, our children are free to watch whatever they want, why? We are never at home hence none really takes care of their vision and controls what they watch on TV, movies and even play video games. Our children are good friends for kids whose parents are don't-care-like hence accessing materials meant for adult audiences and on the list goes.

As parents struggle to keep up with technology and other stuff, some children are already practicing what they see. They would then pass on the info to those willing to listen, or innocently say something that hints of what they like doing when no one is watching.

Such kids are all over, ranging from as young as 5 years and on. These kids know a lot: from adult language to actual things adults do--- and yes! Willingness to teach others how the 'act' should be done.

Where did the society go wrong? A few days ago, one kid-- about 8 years old boy--, was heard saying 'Nataka kumshika yule manzi cha nguvu (I want to rape that girl.) Yep! His face showed he was serious about it. Ad given the chance he could have attempted his desires.

It hurts to know that most children who are going astray are the most loved kids. The boy in an example above is a notorious child whose mother would do anything to keep him safe, from blame, and from anything negative. The mother knows that her child needs serious help, but because of love she is not willing to let him helped.

Too much of something is poisonous, yes! Parents need to understand the limits of love. Love itself is not bad. It creates the basis of good family and understanding of the community as whole. However, if we let our feelings drive us we may be doing more harm than good to our children.

Why do you marry or get married?

marriage is all about being together as one (from meme center)

It has been the norm and the expectations of every parent are to see his daughter or son getting a family of his or her own and having a plus of grandchildren.

Marriage is an institution that the society looks upon as the obvious outcome is for the couple to definitely have children. And this is such a saturated issue such that couple who even go for a year without a child will obviously get curious questions from their immediate family members or even from their close friends.

So just recently, we were treated to some shocking news here in my country of a young man who chopped off his wife's hands accusing her of not conceiving for the seven years that they had been married. But then there were reports that the same man had corrective reproductive issues being the reason for their failing to have children and could not even own up to seek medical attention.

Getting into the institution of marriage means that as a man you are ready to step up into the shoes of being the head of a family and a wife as your partner.

For sure being parents to your own children is definitely what you look forward to, but what if this fails... Does it mean that this marriage is doomed to fail?This question would definitely have answers and to some extent, it depends on the individuals involved.

But then for couples who are not able to sire kids,the society comes in here.Let the society not condemn the couple like theirs is a life of crime and we need to shun the mentality that women are to blame here in this case.

Like for this incident,this lady lost her arms yet her husband failed to follow up on treatment that would maybe have rectified the situation though he still chose to blame his wife for their reason of not having children.

So the society ought to accept childless marriages

Parenting, Teenage Pregnancy And Why The Society Should Adopt Some New Changes

It is not how you prevent you child from unknown, it is all about
how you bring them up.

It may be shocking to all of us but as parents, it ought to be an eye-opener to other new challenges of parenting.

Just a few days ago.it was there in the print media of how girls as young as 13 years are already using contraceptives and this may be largely due to an increasing number of teenage pregnancies.It's true  that our young girls are solving the case of unwanted pregnancies but not the sexually transmitted infections(STIs). This revelation came to be the talk of everyone and a number of radio stations aired the same, out of concern for our young girls.

Most parents were willing to talk about this issue and reckoned that even as we say that we are in a generation where everything has changed, we cannot hide our heads in the sand and refuse to take the blame.

It's so sad that some parents opt to take their daughters to have birth control programs to avoid facing the embarrassment once they get pregnant. But the question is, what is more important, covering shame since you are a staunch Christian or the well-being of your daughter?

Any parent will have other reasons like ensuring that the daughter completes education without any interruptions, In this case, an unwanted pregnancy. By doing this, you as the parent are giving your daughter the go ahead of engaging in sexual activities since the fear of getting pregnant is well taken care of. But there are some adverse effects due to the usage of some family planning methods and as a parent then you ought to be ready to face the wrath of your daughter if she fails to conceive in future.

Parents should take their parenting roles responsibly talking to their children well in advance in order for them to make sane choices.

It so happens that some of the girls just get contraceptives over the counters without involving their parents because they think that they are old enough to make their own decisions.

For quite some time now even the government has been at the forefront  in encouraging young mothers to adopt family planning methods in a bid to properly space their children. So the concerned medical personnel should take up this opportunity and let them know that family planning only avoids unwanted pregnancy and so they ought to be careful since actively engaging in sex means more vulnerability to getting sexually transmitted infections(STIs).

So as parents, let us talk with one voice of being friends with our children and talk to them frequently and this way ,they will feel the parental touch of having parents who hear them out and assists them in their challenges.

Listening and Learning About Them...

listen to them, and learn about them

The new girl in town is always the center of attention from the male and the female world. In male world, they wish they could to dominate her mind, her love and her world as whole.. but in female world they would want to make friendship with her, learn more about her past and secret life, and then admonish her to be very careful about what they fear the most. Is there any true link to her worries in life?

Well, the male world is always dominated by the team of hit-and-runs. In most cases, the people in this group only want to lure her into the love snare and escape with the piece of her broken heart. However, we have genuine people who only intend to guide her though, give her support whenever she needs one and be that ‘person’ she could rely on if she steps in the hot spot.

The most amazing thing about female world is the fact that she will have no real friend. Those who feign good are only there to make sure she is heading in the wrong direction. They would tell her stuff that will only result into the feeling of fear, veneration and despair. They would keep her busy with unrealistic gossip, keep her mind hot with stories about everything and everyone, and lastly give her advice that will only mislead her into a dreamy world. Then what? They would stand aside and laugh at every move she makes to figure out where the reality is and lastly, they will hate her for going against their say.


Is it true that women dislike one another? 

When do love become replaced by so much hate?

Anger and brutality 

For quite sometime now,news of a lover killing his or her love or a husband killing a wife and vice versa has become part of us in the society with these heinous acts continue to rise at a very alarming rate.The most recent incident is that of a fresh graduate being brutally murdered by her boyfriend with claims that she had threatened to dump him.

This is just one of the many incidents that our news people have been reporting yet even as shocking as they may be,we still tend forget and move on.The sad part is most of these incidents involve our young people especially the college material whom the society brands as grown-ups who know what is right and wrong and after all are aware what they are doing.But my take on this is,does going to the university or even a college mean that  you are on your own as parents now think you are of age.

For two young young people to have a close relationship that blossoms into love,then its obvious they know this is part of life that will take them places.Then the question is why do most young lovers think that if they disagree to the extent of parting ways that death is the only solution?They need to know being in a romantic relationships exposes them to open fields of quarrels or fights but by the end of it all,how they go about tackling the problems at hand matters a lot.

The young people need to know that if you break up with your love,you ought to be positive about it for you to be ready to move on.A broken relationship is still part of life and who knows may be this relationship was after-all a hindrance to better things in store for you.

So I think such sad  incidents should not slip from our minds so fast and as parents and the lecturers for our young people in colleges or universities,we have a role to play.By this I mean the young people need to have counselling sessions in the learning institutions and this is where parents come in due to financing such sessions.After all young people need guidance in most aspects of life.

Why You Have To Love Yourself First!

Love starts with you!

Many of us like being loved, right? That is cool because even the tyrant do not like being hated. The most important thing about life is all about accepting who you are and minding what others think about you. If you impose force into someone's mind, either to love you or fear you, you lose! This lose may come when you do not expect it and may end up being the worst setback in your love en-devours in life.

If you love yourself, then you would understand other people much better. The more you hate someone, the more the chances that you will never find peace in your mind.

Unconditional Love To who? How? When? And Why?

As a human being, you can only pretend that you do not care. Or maybe, you do care but you shut down those important feelings towards other people. Making your heart so scared to feel the pain and sorrow for someone else's troubles. The more the fearful heart, the more the chances of making a wrong move towards other people. The caring part of you declines showing up in time and eventually, people will evade you like deadly poison.

Take care of that love,

Love yourself more before giving out some,

Be there for those you care for and show some desire to help....

Have your say but let others have a discussion about the same issue,

Train your mind to accept defeat and love changes where necessary...

Well, we are humans and sometimes we do things before thinking over and over again why we did it and for what purpose. Cool! An apology comes in when you know you went wrong someone and someone got hurt in that process. Love is like light that illuminates through in all curves of life.

And yes! Give out much love and expect none from those you care for...

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Man and His Daughter Arrested For Having an Illegal Relationship

father and daughter arrested

Nairobi,Kenya- First there were rumors that the father and his daughter were having an intimate relationship. But since there was no one to prove it right, no one cared much about it.

By then, the girl was already married to her first lover even though her marriage was unstable due to her husband's unfaithfulness.

Then one day, the father forced her out of that relationship and rented a house for her and her one year old daughter. Her father provided everything she needed and her life was that simple since she did not have to hustle for money or for anything---- just staying comfortably taking care of her baby.

However, her close relationship with her father seemed to go far beyond father-daughter love. Sometimes, he would kiss her on the mouth and hug her so tightly just like how real romantic lover do. And while walking, he always placed his hand across her waist. Yes! It was just too much.

Yesterday the 25 December, 2014 the guy was so drunk that spilled the rotten beans in people face. Regrettably, he confessed that she (the daughter) is the reason why his wife left him upon discovery of his illegal affair with his own daughter. According to him, the relationship started when she was in high school and nothing has changed ever since.

He went on to say that her marriage was only necessary because people would have asked questions about the father of her baby. So he arranged for that marriage to cover up for the damage---only that her husband came to know about that game when the baby was born a month shorter than the expected time.

Currently, the police are investigating the truth behind  his words. If they find enough evidence,the guy will be arraigned in court to answer for charges before him.

Further reports indicates that the daughter too is being held in a different police station being questioned for more clarification.

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