Explore The Possibilities In life, Never Shy Away From Challenges

Explore the possibilities in Life

When we talk about life, what comes to your mind? I don't know about you but personally, I would remember sipping a mouthful of coffee when writing this. I would think of a safari to the mountainous region after this--- just to feel free and relax my mind, then I would remember that life does not expect us to shy away from problems but to face them head on! 

What to do then? 

Let's face it, if we shy away from the bully then we should expect more to come. The only way to repel the threat to our peace is to face it.  Good or rather great things happen when we know what we want and when we have to do something for better future. We all face challenges in life, right? However, dealing with whatever that comes in your life is worth your effort than postponing it... 

Now literature of life is simple, those who endure through challenges ends up winning! Loser, escape through the mess but eventually, there will be no way out.

Explore the possibilities in life. Note sown what to face and what to come later. Use the little you have to outdo challenges, and for usre you will emerge victorious. 


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How To Overcome Self-desperation, 4 Tricks That You Need

Self-desperation denies you a reason to see beyond how you feel

You have been searching for a ‘you’ in yourself but you are so unfortunate to find anything worth holding onto. Your friends say you do not even qualify to be in their midst, in other words, you are a bother. Then what?

Well, life sucks if you do not understand yourself. It is tricky! You may feel you have nothing that makes you stand and be counted amongst the people. A feeling that takes you to that moment whereby nothing about you makes any meaning in life. You feel desperate for recognition but something tells you that you will live in that doomed state forever. 

Think of a state between desperation and hopelessness in life. Sad beyond anyone’s wishes but great that you can really overcome and become a celebrity of your own. However, you need to focus your mind on these simple tricks.

First, learn to stay calm and positively motivated.

---To understand yourself, take time alone and ask yourself these simple question…

-Who are you?

-What are you?

-What do you wanna be?

You know what? Everything good or everything bad usually happens in your mind. If you think negatively about yourself, then do not expect other people to see you differently. Having a positive desire to be what you wanna be, originates from inside your head and goes from there. What you believe happens to carry the message to your personal behaviors.

So, if you are ready then move to part two…

Be sure of what you want in life and struggle to achieve that goal

---That move may seem so difficult to you since you do not trust yourself with simple life challenges. However, if you learn to give it a try then you will be amazed how good you are and how great you can be. A good start is measured by yours first achievement—something to focus your mind on.

Thirdly, don’t be shy and go alone when you know other people might be willing to walk with you.

---Now, you are calm and motivated to kick start your adventure n life. You are sure of what you want and nothing can take your mind from it. What then? Great, that marks the beginning of ‘real you’ against the world. You may make mistakes at the beginning but be ready to face the whole negative lot on your way to smashing goals. 

Nevertheless, if it happens that you are stuck and having no clues on how to go about it, be bold enough and ask for directions from someone you know would assist you out. It is easy that way than to hit the dead end and lose your will in pursuing your goals.

Moreover, be ready to help those struggling to reach there.

Be inspired to reach for those who are desperate 

---Guessing by how you started and the progress made, why not offer a hand to those who are struggling along the path to success? It is easy to give than to receive something in life, but if you help someone who is struggling; that person will never miss to give you thumbs up for a good job. And that is how you achieve happiness in what you do in life.

Parting shot!

In life, you have to start from somewhere and do not let anyone interfere with your mind. Be focused, be determined and pursue your dreams to the fullest. Do not be mean to others and be happy for who you are. 

Parenting, Teenage Pregnancy And Why The Society Should Adopt Some New Changes

It is not how you prevent you child from unknown, it is all about
how you bring them up.

It may be shocking to all of us but as parents, it ought to be an eye-opener to other new challenges of parenting.

Just a few days ago.it was there in the print media of how girls as young as 13 years are already using contraceptives and this may be largely due to an increasing number of teenage pregnancies.It's true  that our young girls are solving the case of unwanted pregnancies but not the sexually transmitted infections(STIs). This revelation came to be the talk of everyone and a number of radio stations aired the same, out of concern for our young girls.

Most parents were willing to talk about this issue and reckoned that even as we say that we are in a generation where everything has changed, we cannot hide our heads in the sand and refuse to take the blame.

It's so sad that some parents opt to take their daughters to have birth control programs to avoid facing the embarrassment once they get pregnant. But the question is, what is more important, covering shame since you are a staunch Christian or the well-being of your daughter?

Any parent will have other reasons like ensuring that the daughter completes education without any interruptions, In this case, an unwanted pregnancy. By doing this, you as the parent are giving your daughter the go ahead of engaging in sexual activities since the fear of getting pregnant is well taken care of. But there are some adverse effects due to the usage of some family planning methods and as a parent then you ought to be ready to face the wrath of your daughter if she fails to conceive in future.

Parents should take their parenting roles responsibly talking to their children well in advance in order for them to make sane choices.

It so happens that some of the girls just get contraceptives over the counters without involving their parents because they think that they are old enough to make their own decisions.

For quite some time now even the government has been at the forefront  in encouraging young mothers to adopt family planning methods in a bid to properly space their children. So the concerned medical personnel should take up this opportunity and let them know that family planning only avoids unwanted pregnancy and so they ought to be careful since actively engaging in sex means more vulnerability to getting sexually transmitted infections(STIs).

So as parents, let us talk with one voice of being friends with our children and talk to them frequently and this way ,they will feel the parental touch of having parents who hear them out and assists them in their challenges.

Why Luhya Community Needs UNITY For Brighter Political Future

Luhyaland wants to be counted as one, 
but it is are not willing to unite as on (twitter pics)

The moment you set your foot for a certain goal,be ready to do the necessary if you really wanna reach a moment of jubilation and happiness. There is no short cut, unless you have a killer weapon awaiting for an appropriate moment to strike home. Politics also revolves under goals and ambitions. Oops! There are those waiting for 'XXX Tosha' magic that was around for some time until the person in charge chose not to entertain this nonsense any longer. This only hints that whoever is up for the challenge should use his or her own ways, means and necessities to make the dream come true. Nothing more, nothing less!

Now what for Western Kenya politics? 

This is rather an ugly question that no Luhyaland leader wants to face in reality. We already know that they only wish they could make things less complicated but the more they wait for a mysterious savior, the more the damage is happening and the more the distance between them.

Those In The Political Tunnel..

By now, a good number of Western Kenya leaders are allied to the ruling government under President Uhuru Kenyatta. These leaders believe that they are at the right channel that will someday sell their asses to the countrywide lot. They see the bright spot at the end of the tunnel and fall for it without thinking how much they should struggle in order to reach the end of that tunnel. To them, eating and making merry on food provided in the tunnel is much better than striving to get out and make their own meals. In this regard, they are the lost sheep but they are happy because the wolf is still pretending to be just like them…

On the other hand, we have the lost lot who are dining in the opposition. Some of these Mulembe leaders are only surviving outside the government because of laws and twisted circumstances. They wish they could jump the ship but they fear the word ‘bloody-traitors.’ Musalia Mudavadi knows better, and I guess he is careful enough, now that he learnt the hard way in UhuHuto saga. The man like the Bukusu political Kingpin and Senator of Bungoma, Moses Wetangula is like a lost sheep. He can’t sit quiet and do his calculations much better. What he has forgotten is the fact that FORD-K is no longer a national party but just another lost political scam that should coalesce with others just to make a noticeable impact in Kenyan politics.

Here is the bitter reality! 

For many years, Arap Moi, the former president of Kenya divided Luhya community because of the threat it was posing on his government. He knew that unity of Mulembe sub-tribes could have moved masses and threaten his tenor in office during multi-party era. This is why he chose to work with the channel of Luhyas and leave others alone for years. From then the Luhya community has been struggling to speak on one language and erase the past, just to move on as one. Other leaders are doing exactly the same to make sure this disunity stays put. And our leaders are dancing to this tune just like history dictates.

When are they gonna wake up?

Luhya nation needs to set goals, work with other communities as one and see how the future will unfold. We need to seal off short valleys and create an atmosphere that will land this great land into the promised land. Unity is the key to our future.

From An Idea In Mind To Personal Challenges Leading To Success

Don't Be Afraid To Try Something New (twitter image)

"I hate to see you here like this when you should be somewhere safe, thinking or waiting for the best moment to strike a new better deal..." By Caring one.

The tomorrow you always think about should start, like now, and be the basis for your future adventures in life. Which is all about making the right decision at the right moment. Do not wait for a reminder, a whistler, to wake you up and show you the way forward. It is all about your approach to something that you wanna do.

Why not start now?

The question here can't provide a room for an answer, but it only gives you an upper thought or an idea to make yourself less comfortable in your current living standard and see the need to strike while the chances are still valid.

In  life, we create chances..., apply our skills and hang on to see how the new thing unveils itself... and those who choose to relax, sip a cup of tea or coffee and enjoy the moment of happiness are not here to stay awake, agile and ready to take a new challenge. In fact, they only wait for someone to come and utilize their ideas and skills for personal gains. Leaving you agonizing for the loss.

When is the best time to relax?

Lets look at this question this way! Relaxation can be good for you to think much better. Having a moment for yourself and trying to see things from an elevated perspective. However,too much of this can be damaging to what you had already started. The moment you train your mind to wonder off and smash itself in a remote wonder-world, forgetting what you should be thinking about, that is the moment you will lose focus and a downfall comes out from its hiding place. You do not want this to happen! You have all it takes to keep the spinning wheel turning and nothing should deter you from succeeding in your endeavors.

Avoid second thoughts.

Well, in every good idea there is always a second thought that mostly works as an inhibitor to that great idea. Here, you need to believe that what you are doing is the most important thing for you today and for your future. With this, your mind will not tolerate anything or anyone coming in to show you the negative way out. Positive minded person wins over every obstacle that comes his or her way. Just remember, to be a winner you must accept challenges but your positivity in handling them is what that really matters.

Listening and Learning About Them...

listen to them, and learn about them

The new girl in town is always the center of attention from the male and the female world. In male world, they wish they could to dominate her mind, her love and her world as whole.. but in female world they would want to make friendship with her, learn more about her past and secret life, and then admonish her to be very careful about what they fear the most. Is there any true link to her worries in life?

Well, the male world is always dominated by the team of hit-and-runs. In most cases, the people in this group only want to lure her into the love snare and escape with the piece of her broken heart. However, we have genuine people who only intend to guide her though, give her support whenever she needs one and be that ‘person’ she could rely on if she steps in the hot spot.

The most amazing thing about female world is the fact that she will have no real friend. Those who feign good are only there to make sure she is heading in the wrong direction. They would tell her stuff that will only result into the feeling of fear, veneration and despair. They would keep her busy with unrealistic gossip, keep her mind hot with stories about everything and everyone, and lastly give her advice that will only mislead her into a dreamy world. Then what? They would stand aside and laugh at every move she makes to figure out where the reality is and lastly, they will hate her for going against their say.


Is it true that women dislike one another? 

Trial And Error Movement In KENYA

Trial and error government

We were hopeful for better Kenya. We sang happily that a youthful president is the best bet for Kenya. We were very enthusiastic that his will for better Kenya was the way, the only route for prosperous 

Kenya. But four years down the drain, we are yet to see big changes as far as human life is concerned.

The biggest challenge most Kenyans have is worry for future Kenya. By now, we only hope for good governance and dependable futuristic presidency. Meaning that what we have is nothing but a group of guys who are not there for the people.

Why is it that Kenyans are suffering loudly due to high cost of living whereas the guys we elected into power have failed terribly and are only there to make sure that the corruption friendly people run key institutions to scoop more cash from Kenyans. The more they steal, the higher the chances for Jubilee administration to retain power come 2017.

As Kenyans, we have choices to make in future. The current government is one thing that counts into another mistake we have been making ever since Kenya got its independence. We have suffered for so long because we have not found that one thing that might bring us together. The people we elect as government representatives to the worldwide community thrive in our ignorance because they know how to manipulate us into thinking along tribal lines. Hating to single-out Tribalism as the greatest weakness and the huge-most mistake that has made Kenya one of the most corrupt countries in the world.

Don’t you and I become tired of trial and error kind of government elections in elections out? If you and I care much about Kenya and have future in mind for this great nation, then we have nothing to lose by making a wise choice come 2017. If you feel you are okay with everything this government has been doing since it assumed power four years ago, then it is okay to vote then in. But if you have beef with then like I do, then you better make it right before running short or choices. 

Should We Trust Either Raila or Kenyatta?

Raila and Uhuru, Are They The Best Kenya Can Ever Get?

The products of a failed system is pain, debts, corruption, silencing those who are nosy, defending corruption, and hiding in the vacuum of ‘don’t care’ mentality when everything is tumbling down on people’s shoulders. Kenyans have everything to lose here, but because of tribalism and foolishness some people still think that the Jubilee government is the shield and refuge for their tribes and wealth.

Raila’s way of handling the IEBC issue is not good. He is like a goon eyeing for a bigger trophy but his effort is being let down by a barrier so huge for him to jump across.

The looser here is no one but a common Kenyan. If the system is stealing from us, we have means of solving the issue with the power of the majority. Sometimes we need to be blind in order to see clearly. Kenyatta’s team is Bad; Raila’s team is Worse… We are doomed to think that these are the only leaders we can rely on when it comes to Kenya’s Governance.

A good leader is not seen by how he can manage the masses from his tribal inclination… but is seen by how he connects with all tribes and ethnic grouping of all Kenyans. 

Now look at President Kenyatta;

1.       Without his homeland votes he has nothing but void… The reason why this is so is because he lacks leadership skills. The language should not be the measure of influence but a way of making people believe that they have someone to rely to in matters related to governance.

2.       Without Ruto’s votes, Jubilees as whole loses its ability to call itself a government of Kenya. Why, Jubilee Alliance is made up of two tribes, leaving behind about 40 other in a state of either in or out of the government. Fail!

Let’s go to Raila’s camp; 

the three principals making CORD coalition is an alignment of tribal leaders coming together for the common goal. These leaders have no means of calling for a united Kenya because none of them can make it alone into power without the other two. The issue of coalition political parties is where the thickest tribalism lies. In light words, CORD is a breed of tribalism… just like Jubilee Alliance Party.

Should we trust either Raila or Kenyatta?

How To Use Jealousness For Positive Gains

Jealous can be defined as a feeling of anger or dissatisfaction all due to another person’s personal achievements or due to being successful.

Jealous Kid 

You can all agree that we sometimes get jealous of what somebody has or has so far achieved and even children are not an exception when it comes to this feeling.

Take for example a child who becomes an outstanding kid for being a new owner of a maybe a new toy that no other child has ever got the chance to have.In this case as much as other kids will admire the new toy and befriend the owner in order to be allowed to play with it,you will still find a kid who will do something to destroy the toy, and I think this is some form of jealous to make the new toy owner a sad owner.

But then if you allow this inward feeling of jealous to really get saturated in you as you think what you can do to make your colleague get pulled down,what really happens is he or she will still move more and more ahead of you.

Remember they are not concerned with you because they definitely do not know about your ill motives.Then what characterizes it all ,you have to keep it to yourself and pretend that you are happy for their achievements. But then do you have time to think what an ugly scene it would be if it can be unearthed that you are the jealous type?If that jealous can be seen then you would be very unlucky to having to deal with the wrath of being a pretender.

So don’t allow jealous into being someone who can make the lives of others messy yet they have really worked hard to be where they are.

Let their achievements be a challenge for you and so this becomes an encouragement that you can really climb a high ladder like your colleagues.

This means that your jealous must be a positive jealous whereby you ought to feel free,approach your colleagues and ask for guidance that will make you be like them one day.

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Busted: Mum Having The Secret Husband and Their Daughter

Shame as woman busted by her real family

A village man was shocked and nearly lost his life when he discovered that his lovely wife was not only cheating on him, but she was already married to another man. This incident happened on December 20^th, 2014 when the man visited his wife’s home in Nairobi.

According to the poor man, his wife of 12 years was blessed with her dream job five years ago and she travelled to Nairobi because of that reason. Later, in one week’s time she called him and broke the news that she got a job and now staying in the company’s free apartment until the end of the month when she was to get her first salary and shift to her own apartment. Things went on well and nothing changed with her and the demanding job.

Their children are usually away at school, and this leaves the man in the house to do his favorite job farming at his rural home. So, practically his wife stays alone in a leafy suburb in Nairobi, having a long distance relationship with her faithful husband.

On that fateful day, he the farmer did not call his wife; instead, he arrived at her place early in the morning, accompanied by their children. To their surprise, the mother was not home alone. In fact, she had a guy with her and their little daughter. 

It was later revealed that the woman has been playing both men with neither of them having a clue of her well-calculated game. It was also hard to convince the two brothers and their sister to accept the new entrant in the once, happy family. 

As this goes online, the court of law will decide the fate of her marriage.

Crazy stuff in real life..

Painful Break Up: Man High On Viagra Cries For Help!

Painful Viagra experience after she left! 

Nairobi, Kenya- A man cried like a little baby when his girl friend chose to flee from an indented marathon bedroom activity. 

Apparently, the man was too eager to satisfy his girlfriend in bedroom game that he took some pills in advance behind her wishes. 

However,  things ran out of hand when she realized that he had taken some ‘game enhancement pills- Viagra’ to upper the chances of going for marathon- something she was not ready for.

So after fleeing from the scene, the man tried to control himself by using simple mechanisms to relieve himself but nothing worked. It seems he was in so much pain that he let out his frustration by crying out loud, not for help, but at least feel better. 

This attracted all sorts of people. At first, the masses thought the poor guy had been attacked by day light robbers. Nevertheless, his behaviors confirmed something else. The moment his close friend discovered a small white bottle with some pills still intact, than puzzle was solved. 

They had to look for another alternative to make his pain go away. Fortunately, someone offered to replace the runaway lady and things went back to normal.

From then, the guy has gone underground and no one knows his whereabouts as by now.

A lesson in life,

Life is not as simple as it may appear. Sometimes you have to weigh the situation carefully before making a move. Remember, regrets come after all your plans have fallen apart. Just try your level best to avoid personal embarrassments and something like ‘I wish I knew.’ 

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